Coping Part Two

Coming to terms with any chronic illness is difficult. There are different stages one typically goes through during the season of accepting and adjusting to a chronic illness. By definition to cope means, “to struggle or deal, especially on fairly even terms or with some degree of success. to face and deal with responsibilities, problems, or difficulties,especially successfully or in a calm or adequate manner” Ultimately to come to terms with something, such as a chronic illness.


Coping with a chronic illness, from my experience thus far, is not a quick one time event. Rather coping is weaved into my daily life, as my illnesses toss new challenges my way. There are a number of ways that I cope with being chronically ill, the frustrations of being medically unique, and the various other set backs that come with being ill.

I have always been a crier. Generally not tears of joy though or tears from a good movie. I cry a lot sometimes. If I feel like someone is mad at me or I did something wrong, I cry. Frustrations, feeling overwhelmed, and occasionally pain cause me to break down into tears. Some medications make me weepy. Allowing yourself to have a good cry, that you pour every emotion and frustration into can help. 


Creativity is a positive way to cope with chronic illness. For me this includes writing, coloring, crocheting,  or working on my Facebook page. Illness stirs up a rushing river of emotions, it is essential to let them out in a positive way. Keeping in so many emotions is unhealthy and can cause flares.

Connecting with other Spoonies has been a life saver for me. If you are newly diagnosed find a support group! It will be one of the best things you can do. There are countless support groups on Facebook, forms online, and face to face ones (Which the Lupus foundation has information on). Being able to relate to someone is truly priceless. Personally it has helped me feel normal. Support groups are a wonderful place to make friends, ask questions, vent, and more. In addition to support groups, like Facebook pages that advocate for your illness(es). If you have Lupus I strongly encourage you to check out the World According to Lupus. Facebook pages have encouraged me in simple ways, educated me, and made me laugh.


Another way I cope with being chronically ill is by sharing my story. Sharing you story gives other people the courage to speak out and share theirs. Your story will inspire, encourage, give hope, and change lives.

It is a well known fact that I adore my pets, of course they help me cope with my illnesses daily. I find a lot of joy in petting them and taking care of them. Pets are wonderful for your health. My cats always know how to make me smile by doing something funny or curling up on my lap

I know some people use music to assist them in coping. Currently music and I aren’t crossing paths much due to the fact I am not suppose to sing.

Everyone copes in their own way. Personally I am always searching for new ways to cope. Give yourself time to adjust to the Spoonie life. If you are able to continue doing things you have a passion for do it. If not find other things you are passionate about. Coping is difficult and changes frequently. You will be able to cope and move forward, one step at a time.


Author: Victoria

Welcome, it is an honor you dropped by. I am Victoria. A twenty-something-year-old battling multiple chronic illnesses while learning how to thrive. Chronically Hopeful was designed to educate others and to provide support to those who are chronically ill. Proving encouragement to others is essential to me. I share my health on here. My major illnesses are Lupus, Hyperadrenergic Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome, EDS, Mast Cell, Endo, and Ulcerative Colitis. I want to share my story with you hoping you will experience support; that someone else understands your pain, struggles, and frustrations. God has chosen not to heal me but to hold me. The more intense the pain the closer his embrace”. My faith, as a Christian has sustained me through the stormy waters of the past few chapters of my life. I desire to grow closer to God and lead others closer to Him. I help lead two online women’s Bible studies. I also post devotionals. I am pursuing my bachelor’s degree through Liberty University’s online program. Despite my illnesses, I have thrived in school. I am a member of Phi Theta Kappa Honor Society, Psi Chi the International Honor Society, and Tau Sigma Honor Society. Abby is my service dog in training. I also have three cats Gracey, Fluffy, and Sadie Rose. I am looking forward to hearing your precious story. Sending hugs, prayers, and spoons. Have an amazing day!

3 thoughts on “Coping Part Two”

  1. I totally agree re support groups. I spent a lot of time thinking I didn’t need any for both my physical and mental illnesses but it changed my coping immensely to join a FB group for UCTD (undifferentiated connective tissue disorder). I still go on although I’m now differentiated into lupus. Between my blog and personal Twitter, I get out most feelings and have connected with so many people in similar boats. Thanks to online spaces, I truly think I’ve overcome the grieving process for my old life. Things are still tough of course but now I can look forward and get support in the crap days x

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    1. I’m happy to hear that you have had a positive experience with online support groups 🙂 Thank you very much for reading this and for your comment! I enjoyed reading it. Wishing you a lovely and pain free day. Sending lots of prayers, spoons, and hugs your way ❤


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